Oh friends, do you ever find yourself awake in the wee hours of the morning, thinking, processing, and mulling over the situations in your life? Last night was one of those nights. Throughout the day, a series of significant events left my heart restless. I finally got out of bed around 5 a.m. to sit before the Lord. I came heavy—carrying conversations, emotions, and a situation that feels like loss… even though no one has died.
And maybe that’s the part that feels confusing. Because grief isn’t always about death. Sometimes it’s the loss of what you hoped for. A relationship that’s shifting. An outcome you can’t change. A situation that didn’t turn out the way you prayed it would.
And there I was… feeling stuck in it. Do you ever feel that way?
In my searching, I came across a devotional that led me to Psalm 22:24:
“He does not ignore those who need help. He does not turn away from them. He listens for their cry.”
In that quiet moment, I sensed the Holy Spirit gently redirecting me. Not loudly. Not forcefully. But clearly, it is not my job to fix this. Instead, I am invited to listen. To listen to Him and with humility to others. To allow Him to redirect my thoughts instead of trying to control the outcome. And if I’m honest, that’s where I struggle.
When something feels broken or uncertain, I want to fix it. I want to manage it, smooth it over, or make it better in my own strength. But that path only leads to overwhelm. God gently reminds me again and again that He is the One who helps. In grief, in unclear loss, and even when the outcome feels downright ugly, God is in control, and He is working.
There are moments in processing where doubt creeps in—where I wonder if God is really working at all. But as I sit with Him, He lifts my eyes. He reminds me that He sees what I cannot see. That He is working in ways I cannot yet understand.
And here is the invitation: We don’t have to have it all figured out. We don’t need to, nor should we, rush past the grief. And we certainly don’t need to pretend it doesn’t hurt. Instead, we can come as we are, bringing the heaviness, laying down the need to fix, control, or change, and trusting that God is near and that He listens.
Today, I am choosing to redirect my mind, to surrender my concerns, and to release outcomes I was never meant to carry. I am choosing to remember that I am not being judged in my grief. Instead, I am being invited into God’s presence. And maybe you are, too. If you find yourself in a place of loss today, whether it’s visible or hidden, named or unnamed, know this:
You are not alone.
You are not unseen.
You are invited.
He who is able is working, even now, even here, in the unseen. Will you give Him your burdens?
